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Points from training February 20, 2014

Filed under: Self-Help — visitor74 @ 11:25 pm

Training

Become a better listener. When listening, think of what you are going to ask. Not about what you want to say. Most people would look what would make them look smart. And because of that, they stop listening.

Don’t take yourself seriously. But take your work seriously.

More money is lost in indecision rather than making the wrong decision.

Tell people what they are doing right. They will do more of it and reduce the negative. Look into the positive in people and highlight that.

Get deeper into the discussion. Find out what is the problem and what is their preference. There are the early adopters. And the conservators. We can know about people simply by looking at them. What they have in their room.

Check out Robert chialdini.

Remind staff that we once were in their position now, and we have done what we ask them to do.

FOMO. Fear of missing out. The scarcity principle. So there are companies that make their phone busy. It’s like telling the people that if their line is busy, a lot people are buying from them. So they have a message, that if their operators are busy, please call back. People thought that if they don’t buy, they will miss out.

Believing is seeing

Everyone is born an artist, the challenge is to remain an artist as you grow up. Pablo Picasso.

Fallor ergo sum. I err, therefore I am. Augustine.

Storytelling. Powerful. Narrative.

 

La Tahzan 1-20 January 11, 2013

Short Notes on the famous book: ‘La Tahzan’.

1. Merenunglah dan bersyukurlah. Terlalu banyak nikmat yang Allah telah berikan kepada kita. Sampai kita tidak terkira. Nikmat kesihatan, tubuh badan, akal dan sebagainya. Mahukah kita menukar semua itu kalau boleh digantikan dengan kekayaan? Tentulah tidak. Kadang-kadang kita terfikir kita da yang kurang, tapi tidakkah terfikir bahawa kita banyak lebih dari orang lain? Ada orang tidak sihat, kurang anggota badan, dan macam-macam lagi. Bersyukurlah atas nikmat yang Allah telah berikan ini. Banyak sekali.

2. Yang berlalu, biarlah berlalu. Tidak ada gunanya mengingatkan masa yang telah lepas. Kita telah meninggalkannya jauh-jauh. Kalau kita ingat, hanya akan menyesakkan fikiran kita sahaja. Kita tidak dapat menikmati masa kita. Apa yang harus kita lakukan adalah bergerak ke hadapan. Bukannya bergerak ke belakang.

3. Hari ini adalah milikmu. Yang kita ada adalah hari ini. Jangan fikirkan tentang semalam dengan segala kekurangannya sebab dah lepas. Jangan sibukkan diri dengan memikirkan apa nak makan esok sebab belum sampai lagi. Ambil lah peluang hari ini dan pergunakan dengan sebaiknya. Buat amal ibadat sebanyak yang mampu. Baca Quran. Kemas pejabat dan sebagainya.

4. Masa depan akan datang dengan sendirinya. Jangan kita buang masa nak mempercepatkannya. Jangan kita dok memikirkan pasalnya sampai menyesakkan fikiran kita. Ia pasti datang dengan sendirinya kalau ia datang. Semua pada ketentuan Allah. Ada kemungkinan tak datang pun. Bukan dalam urusan kita. Jangan jadi macam orang yang takut dengan ramalan tentang kemungkinan buruk yang akan terjadi. Kita risau tak tentu pasal. Nanti bila dah datang, kita akan melalui jambatan itu. Terlalu memikirkan masa depan adalah thulul amal (angan-angan yang terlalu jauh). Syaitan lah yang memberikan kita takut tentang masa depan itu.

5. Jadikan kritikan tajam sebagai penghormatan. Akan ada sahaja yang tidak puas hati dengan apa yang kita ada. Walaupun kita berbuat baik dengan mereka, ada sahaja yang nak jatuhkan kita. Tak puas hati sahaja lihat kita baik. Mereka macam nak kita jadi tak baik. Mereka jadi begitu kerana mereka sendiri yang lemah. Jangan hiraukan mereka.

6. Harap redha Allah sahaja semata. Janganlah mengharap terima kasih dari orang lain. Kadang-kadang kita tolong orang, bukan nak berterima kasih, cemuh pun ada. Jangan kesah kalau jadi begitu. Ikhlas kan hati.

7. Membantu orang lain boleh menyebabkan kita sendiri rasa tenang dan gembira. Antaranya bagi muka manis kepada orang lain. Teringin kalau ada tempat yang aku boleh membantu orang. Macam kalau ada rumah anak yatim ke. Boleh aku mengajar mengaji Quran ke, mengaji agama ke atau mengajar cara-cara belajar kepada dorang. Boleh aku ajar mindmap, atau english kepada dorang.

8. Sibuk kan diri dengan perkara bermanfaat. Baca buku, mengemas dan apa sahaja. Sebab kalau duduk melangung itulah yang menyebabkan fikir macam macam perkara buruk. Mulalah teringat kesilapan dan sesalan dulu; risaukan masa sekarang dan masa depan.

9. Allah telah jadikan manusia ini semuanya berbeza. Maka janganlah kita merubah diri kita kerana nak ikut orang lain.

10. Terimalah qada dan qadr Allah. Semua telah ditulis. Kita tak dpt nak ubah. Maka akan tenang diri kita.

11. Ketahuilah bahawa selepas setiap kesusahan akan datang kesenangan. Tunggu sahaja. Jangan terlalu ikut perasaan tentang keadaan semasa yang menyelubungi pada masa itu.

12. Ambillah hikmah dari setiap kejadian. Kadang-kadang sesuatu keburukan yang terjadi itu ada hikmahnya yang kadang-kadang kita tak perasan. Macam orang dulu-dulu yang teraniaya tapi kerana itu mereka dapat menyampaikan ilmu mereka dengan lebih lagi. Mungkin ada perkara yang kita tidak suka tapi ianya adalah baik untuk kita seperti firmanNya dalam 2:216.

13. Mengharap dan berdoa kepadaNya. Kepada Allah lah sahaja yang dapat menyelamatkan kita dan memberi pertolongan. Pintu lain mungkin tertutup rapat tapi pintu Allah luas terbuka. Seperti Quran an Naml:62. Allah memang dah suruh kita doa kepadaNya seperti Quran Ghafir:60

14. Uzlah (mengasingkan diri) dari perkara atau perjumpaan maksiat atau melalaikan. Banyak cara. Antaranya pergi ke majlis ilmu, solat berjemaah dan sebagainya. Jgn campur dengan orang orang yang melalaikan.

15. Allah akan mengganti yang lebih baik. Asalkan kita bersabar. Samada digantikan didunia atau diakhirat nanti. Sebab Allah mempunyai segala. Yang nak diherankan kehilangan dunia buat apa kerana dunia sekejap sahaja. Maka janganlah keluh kesah sangat.

16. Beriman dengan Allah adalah kehidupan yang sebenar. Kita berserah kepada Allah. Segalanya Allah. Dengan mempunyai iman, hati akan tenang.

17. Berlembutlah dengan orang lain. Ambil lah madu tapi jangan rosakkan sarangnya. Jangan nak marah-marah. Hubungkan silaturrahim sesama kita. Jadilah supaya orang lain merasa aman dengan kita.

18. Dengan mengingati Allah hati akan menjadi tenteram. Ingatlah kepadaNya dalam gundah gulana. Berdoalah kepadaNya. Dengan itu akan menjadi tenteram hati. Dan insyaAllah akan selesailah segala masalah kita semua.

19. Pendengki itu lebih rendah daripada yang didengki. Janganlah ada perasaan dengki dalam hati kita. Kerana kalau kita dengki dengan orang, maka sebenarnya kita tidak redha dengan apa yang Allah telah berikan kepada orang itu. Ingatlah bahawa Allahlah yang telah memberi apa yang telah diterima oleh orang itu. Dan janganlah ambil hati sangat dengan mereka yang dengki dengan kita. Mereka adalah orang yang rendah akalnya dan kita tak dapat nak buat apa dengan mereka.

20. Jalani hidup apa adanya. Dalam dunia ada yang manis dan pahit. Begitulah yang Allah telah jadikan. Kadang-kadang dalam keburukan itu ada kebaikan. Kita sendiri yang tak tahu. Allah telah buat semua itu dengan taqdirNya. Kita ambillah yang baik sahaja. Jangan kita mencemuh keadaan. Kalau ada keburukan dalam isteri kita contohnya, tentu ada kebaikan juga padanya. Mesti ada yang kita suka tentangnya.

 

Quotes for The Day October 24, 2012

Filed under: Self-Help — visitor74 @ 12:02 pm

Dah lama tak letak quote. Here goes…..

Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa

 

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari – Book by Robin Sharma June 27, 2011

Filed under: Books,Self-Help — visitor74 @ 12:52 am

This book has been written many years ago, and I’ve always seen it at bookstores. But it never got into my hand. Until this time. I’ve always wonder what it was about. But maybe because of the title contains the word ‘monk’, it a bit turn me offish, to tell you the truth. But after reading it, it’s not about religious, but about humanity. The knowledge inside it, overcome religious boundaries. It’s about finding the live that we have always wanted, but never know how to get it. It’s about getting peace. The elusive peace with yourself.

When I started reading it, I thought that this was taken from a real story. But after a while, you would notice that this could never be true. It’s just the way Robin Sharma wrote it. He made it like a fable, and thus making it much more interesting. You’ve taken into a world that is made real. It’s easier for you to imagine the teaching that he want to give to us.

I liked the way he presented his ideas. It’s a universal truth ideas, really. You’ve probably already read it somewhere else, but by giving an example such as Julian Mantle, Robin was like telling us that it can be done. Someone here has done it, and his name is Julian Mantle.

He’s also gave a mnemonic way how to easily remember the teaching of the Sages of Sivana. with the story of the garden, and in the garden there’s a lighthouse… etc. even I can remember the teaching now.

It’s a good book to be read again and again so that you can understand and remember the techniques given in the books. Happy reading, you all!

 

Quote reviews December 11, 2010

Filed under: Self-Help — visitor74 @ 9:11 am

Loved you once, love you still. Always have, always will. -Mary Schmich
–> lovers out there. Remember this the next time you write to your spouse a birthday card. Or you screw up and want to make amends. Thank me later.

God made woman beautiful and foolish; beautiful, that man might love her; and foolish, that she might love him. -Anon
–> it’s an insult and also a complement at the same time. More of a complement to me, really. And it really means if women were smart, they’d stay clear from us. Ha ha.

Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. -Winston Churchill
–> problem is, with failure there are consequences that we have to face. I wish that there would be someone out there that can give you some pick-me-up when you screw up. And screw up you will. As Kasparov said: Mistakes are all waiting to be made.

Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever. -J.M. Bacher
–> sweet.

The average person thinks he isn’t. Father Larry Lorenzoni
–> don’t you hate it when you meet someone who doesn’t know too much but blabbers anyway? Then you have feign interest and all the thinking of an exit strategy. Gosh, I hope I’m not one of those people. I got a fair share of meeting people like that.

I can’t give you a surefire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time. —HERBERT BAYARD SWOPE, American editor and journalist; first recipient of the Pulitzer Prize
–> this is probably the first quote I remember. I love it so much. And I remember who quoted it. A rare occasion that one. I usually remember the quote verbatim, but names are hard. So usually I just fake any names. But I just re-found this quote and I’m glad to know that mr Herbert is the first recipient of the coveted Pulitzer prize! Sweet!

 

More quotes! December 6, 2010

Filed under: Ilmu,Interesting,Self-Help — visitor74 @ 9:26 am

Law was made for one thing alone; for the exploitation of those who do not understand it – Bertolt Brecht
–> one of the lawyer jokes. Being a legal student in the past, of course I’m interested in quotes like this. I know that many common people are not comfortable with lawyers and legal gobbledegook. The most harsh I’ve ever heard is this: what do you call ten lawyers tied together at the bottom of the sea?
Answer: a bloody good start!

No one will make a lock without a key. Similarly, God won’t give problems without solutions. -Alena Lynn
–> I’m sure to use this quote to boost someone else’s spirit. But it really is hard sometimes to find a solution.

Menstruation, menopause, mental breakdowns -> most womens probIems begin with men.
–> rather not comment on this one. I post it here I like the wordings.

Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere. -Glenn Turner
–> one of my fav quotes! Been saying it for many many years now. Now I can credit it to Glenn Turner whenever I say it.

To forget easily is a gift. Let go of your past mistakes. Make a fresh start. -Yeong-ha Kim

To forget easily is a gift. Let go of your past mistakes. Make a fresh start. -Yeong-ha Kim
–> a positive spin to say by those that forget easily like. Tho in my case, instead of making fresh start, I’d be making fresh new mistakes!

Spongebob: “What do you usually do when I’m gone?” Patrick: “Wait for you to come back.” Friendship!
–> isn’t that just cute?

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
—ALBERT EINSTEIN
–> i haven’t come to the realization that Einstein is talking about here. But I kinda understand it a bit. You would have to read Harunyahya’s take in the Matrix movies to begin to understand it.

The tongue has no bones, yet it breaks bones. -Greek Proverb.
Tongue never broke my bones yet, but there are incidents where it broke my heart.

It’s easier to stay silent than to fake a smile. –> oh how true. Sometimes I hate myself for giving a fake smile. Because I know that I really really hate what’s going on and what someone said that forced that smile, but I have to smile anyway.

Apologizing is like whiteout. It covers up the mistake, but it never totally goes away. –> but sometimes it’s the only noble thing to do. Let’s try not to make mistakes in the first place. But easy said that done.

The world most beautiful sentence: “But I love you.” The world’s most painful sentence: “I love you but…” -Vea Mariz. –> have you said any of this before?

 

More quotes! December 4, 2010

Filed under: Ilmu,Interesting,Self-Help — visitor74 @ 8:41 pm

Quotes just lovely and lively! I just love em. Thought that I share some that I like and put my take on them. Personalize it a bit la.

No one will make a lock without a key. Similarly, God won’t give problems without solutions. -Alena Lynn
–> I’m sure to use this quote to boost someone else’s spirit. But it really is hard sometimes to find a solution.

Menstruation, menopause, mental breakdowns -> most womens probIems begin with men.
–> rather not comment on this one. I post it here I like the wordings.

Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere. -Glenn Turner
–> one of my fav quotes! Been saying it for many many years now. Now I can credit it to Glenn Turner whenever I say it.

To forget easily is a gift. Let go of your past mistakes. Make a fresh start. -Yeong-ha Kim

To forget easily is a gift. Let go of your past mistakes. Make a fresh start. -Yeong-ha Kim
–> a positive spin to say by those that forget easily like. Tho in my case, instead of making fresh start, I’d be making fresh new mistakes!

Spongebob: “What do you usually do when I’m gone?” Patrick: “Wait for you to come back.” Friendship!
–> isn’t that just cute?

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
—ALBERT EINSTEIN
–> i haven’t come to the realization that Einstein is talking about here. But I kinda understand it a bit. You would have to read Harunyahya’s take in the Matrix movies to begin to understand it.

The tongue has no bones, yet it breaks bones. -Greek Proverb.
Tongue never broke my bones yet, but there are incidents where it broke my heart.

It’s easier to stay silent than to fake a smile. –> oh how true. Sometimes I hate myself for giving a fake smile. Because I know that I really really hate what’s going on and what someone said that forced that smile, but I have to smile anyway.

Apologizing is like whiteout. It covers up the mistake, but it never totally goes away. –> but sometimes it’s the only noble thing to do. Let’s try not to make mistakes in the first place. But easy said that done.

The world most beautiful sentence: “But I love you.” The world’s most painful sentence: “I love you but…” -Vea Mariz. –> have you said any of this before?