But I know that there will come a time when her religion and her akhlak would need to be nurtured . I need to be ready for that. This didn’t come with my daughter when we got her. Usually, when we buy electrical products, it comes with a manual. We don’t get a manual when we got our children, do we?
So I’m turning to Nouman Ali Khan who has sort through the Qur’an for verses to prepare us to nurture our children. I’m twriting his down for my references later.
Parenting these days are different with the past. No more decency in the society like it used to. Looking back even a few years ago. In a couple of decades, things has changed dramatically. The way Islam is practised is different already. It’s not the same with our time. Islam is used to be on autopilot. Because there’s Islamic environment already. Decency was prevailing, respect was normal, children were exposed to Islam really.
Things has changed dramatically. Children exposed to bad things early and it has become a norm. This is the age of YouTube, Twitter, Facebook etc. it’s so prevailing nowadays. All those gates to mungkar. Majority follow a certain lifestyle that is not good. That’s the dominant culture. Harder because we are minority. The child wants to blend with the majority and don’t want to look weird. So they do bad things just to be accepted. We need to do extra. And it’s not easy.
So what can we do? We need to look to what Allah is saying about parenting. Apart from giving them shelter, food and stuff. Is there anything else? Is it just that. So we need to look at ayats and looking for parenting values. What does parenting means?
1. Our children is a blessings. A gift from Allah.
2. What should be our concerns as parents?
3. Kids can be a trial.
4. We and our children on judgement day.
5. Parental psychology from surah Yusuf and Qassas.
6. Important lessons to teach our children from Quran. What are important things that they should know as children.
7. Allah encourage to devout our children for the service of Islam. Prepare the child to serve Allah deen. Because they are children of Allah to be used for His deen.
Importance of parenting
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا
O people! be careful of (your duty to) your Lord, Who created you from a single being and created its mate of the same (kind) and spread from these two, many men and women; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, by Whom you demand one of another (your rights), and (to) the ties of relationship; surely Allah ever watches over you.
Allah honored Adam in this verse, our father. What about the mother? The word وَالْأَرْحَامَ means the womb. This points to the mother.
Then Allah told us to make taqwa. We have to take care of our relation with Allah as mentioned in اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ. There are right of Allah and rights of parents. Parents is honored. Meaning they have a huge responsibility. This is also about parenting. Usually we talk about the rights of parents, But about the responsibility as parents? It comes with the territory. When there’s honour, there comes with it the responsibility. When parents hugely honoured, then that means that they have huge responsibility as well.
To be continued.